Comments on Lisa writes...: Confessions of a social media misfit

When I first started blogging and discovered site ...

2011-11-21T21:52:01.933-06:00

When I first started blogging and discovered site meter I was a stat junkie. Now, I rarely, if ever, look at them but when I do, it depresses me. Maybe I should just delete all stat counters and save myself the worry! :)

I've observed very similar instances in regard...

2011-11-21T21:49:40.969-06:00

I've observed very similar instances in regard to harsh words being more prevalent because of the disconnect of relationship via computer screen. I too have been hurt and offended by things said in a comment that, like you, I don't think would have ever been said in a face to face conversation! "Tone" has become completely off bounds which seems to me to be only an excuse to be as rude as you want and claim that your tone was merely misunderstood! The truth is, we can speak (type) honestly and remain gracious. Or so it seems to me. Anyway, thanks for your rambling comment! Feel free to ramble on anytime... :)

I understand completely. I pray the Lord will dire...

2011-11-21T21:42:59.207-06:00

I understand completely. I pray the Lord will direct you as you wait on Him at the crossroads!

Inadequate and silly--yep, me too! I don't lik...

2011-11-21T21:42:11.559-06:00

Inadequate and silly--yep, me too! I don't like crowds nor small talk either. I like your observations about social media's tendency to make us satisfied with lesser in terms of friendships. That gives me more to ponder as I consider my own social media connections.

I like social media for the reasons you mention, ...

2011-11-21T21:25:11.110-06:00

I like social media for the reasons you mention, i.e. knowing ladies like you! But it depresses me for similar reasons. I often feel inadequate and silly, and I wish I could write something more meaningful than a silly tweet. I consider myself a very odd sort of introvert. I don't like crowds and trying to make small talk. If I had my way, I'd rather speak in front of 200 women I don't know than try and find a table at ladies' meeting at my own church. What depresses me about social media is that it can make people satisfied and not desire deeper friendships. We may think we have all the connections we can handle, but in reality only 2 or 3 people really know us. That's what I struggle with.

Standing at a crossroads with it all. Not sure wha...

2011-11-21T11:48:14.972-06:00

Standing at a crossroads with it all. Not sure what the future holds...

I think I'm a social media misfit too. I like ...

2011-11-21T11:42:35.518-06:00

I think I'm a social media misfit too. I like things like Facebook and Twitter, but I've found that more and more I will comment on other peoples status, but I rarely post anything of my own. The same has been true of blogging. As I've thought about suspending my Facebook account over the last few days, I've realised that's its because of the drama. I love all the wonderful people I've met through Facebook and blogging, but it seems to me that harsh comments are made a little too easily in the disconnected world of the internet. Things are said that would likely never be said in a face-to-face conversation. Its also hard to convey matters of tone in a Facebook comment, so I think its easy to be offended by something that someone really meant to express in a kind and gentle matter. Saturday night I went to bed early and cried because of a few Facebook comments made by a friend (seriously, my husband thought I was nuts - though more than likely its those pesky pregnancy horomones). Anyway, after thinking about it I realised that I likely took it WAY to personally, and that the person leaving the comments surely had no desire to hurt me, its was just the way it came across. Which made me wonder how often I've unintentionally done that to others.
Anyway, thank you for this post and sorry for my rambling comment here, its just something that's been on my heart.

I can relate to a lot of what you say here. I, to...

2011-11-21T11:31:28.366-06:00

I can relate to a lot of what you say here. I, too, am more shy than might come across on the internet AND I struggle with finding a balance between my real life and my digital life. Let's face it...sometimes, the digital life is a LOT easier - plenty of days I would rather deal with a machine than real people! As for my tendency to analyze how many page views, followers and likes I have (and putting those things in the proper perspective), God is helping me work on that.